Before we jump into the action, some changes: we now have an invite-only meetup that will take place this upcoming Saturday. If you want to join, request an invite here.
Some of you asked for a more organized space for discussions, so I propose to meet in this Telegram channel. These are the two things I am going to do this week, in order to make #WeeklyAction - better.
Coincidentally, this is exactly the approach we are going to take towards improving your life.
⚡ The Action
At the end of each day, think back to how it went and write down one sentence on what you could do better.
🤔 The Why
So, how do you actually get better at anything? Naturally one of the first things that come to mind is “experience”. According to research, however, that can only get you so far.
If you want to get to the top in any field, you need to do what is called “Deliberate Practice”: a focused, purpose-based, systematic approach to progress that also changes how you think about the topic. That is to say - take it seriously and have a system, and not rely on ‘talent’ & ‘amount of hours’ in exercise.
Trust me, I played over 5 000 chess games with zero effect on my rating, only to jump 150 points within a month after starting to work with a coach. Here is a good book on the topic.
This week, we will do this for your daily life.
🧐 The How - Full Version
Yes, in some sense, this newsletter is the epitome of ‘random self-development’, but even chaos can be systematic. Therefore, let’s introduce a system to the process.
For this week, carefully observe your days.
At the end of the day, think back and analyze what went well, and what could have been improved.
Tip: You could take a look at things like health, entertainment, work, efficiency, feelings, etc.
Before you hit the bed - write down a single line of what you could have done better.
At the end of the week, you should have seven entries. This should allow you to see if there are any patterns and which areas you should focus on.
Decide which area you are going to make a conscious effort to improve over the next three months.
Personally, I use Roam Research for note-taking, and tag these sentences as #dobetter, then once a month I review all of them to look for patterns. Dealing with distractions is the main one for me, at the moment.
🐨 Lazy Mode
Each day, think back to what you could have done better. See if you find any patterns.
💸 Professional Application
When it comes to running companies too often improvement comes out of necessity instead of ‘by design’. That is to say, adversity and problems - force you to innovate.
For example, you might be running out of cash, and decide to make a last-ditch effort to change the customer persona you are targetting. Purely by chance, it saves your company.
On the other hand, you could use the methods of deliberate practice combined with the action of actively looking for areas of improvement. One month, you could notice that it takes too long to reach decisions, and introduce a new decision-making system. Another month you could try to experiment with changing the salary and bonus structures.
Not because you have to, but because you can.
💖 Personal Application
When we have arguments with our loved ones, we say to ourselves: “let’s not have the same argument again”, or “let’s not argue in the future”. Only to come back to the same problem a few weeks, days, or hours down the line. Why? Because we leave it up to chance.
Instead, think about what could you do better, specifically, and design practice systems, in order to improve. For instance you could realize that you can:
Practice doing three deep breaths when you feel an argument is erupting and you are about to reply.
Introduce a ‘safe word’, which asks both parties to take a pause before the argument gets out of hand.
Create a system for post-argument discussions, with certain rules and boundaries, and goals.